“On the holy encounter – When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. As you treat him you will treat yourself. As you think of him you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.” – Meditations From A Course In Miracles
To meditate on this gave me great pause for reflection. I have heard similar words before but only spent seconds in this thought.
It is amazing how easy we can mistreat others. In my irritation, I tend to be mean, disrespectful and rude to others. I know if someone were to treat me like that I would feel hurt, angry, and I would mistreat that person or someone else; a vicious cycle that never ends unless I stop it now.
When I began to view others as if I was seeing myself, I realized that all they really want is love and validation.
I was working at a job that had high levels of stress and put a strain on my own mental and physical health. When I started working in the healthcare industry I was commended on many occasions about my compassion for others. My last year working in the healthcare industry, I noticed that my compassion was dwindling. I still had it, but my patience was wearing thin and I became prone to meltdowns. I knew it was time to move on, despite the fact that I loved my employment and referred to my co-workers as my second family.
It was a tough decision, but it gave me a chance for reflection. A chance to heal my wounds, to become that compassionate person I once was, and to search for that inner peace and balance that I seek. Now, I strive to see everyone as if I were to see myself and reassure them of the love and validation that I, too, seek.
It’s a slow process, but I’m learning. I even apologized to my husband for an outburst that should not have happened. I also find myself conscious about the words that come out of my mouth. This is a good thing!