“The Buddha recommended dealing with anger through meditation in order to become calmer, more aware of emotions and more loving towards others.” – The Meditation Bible by Madonna Gauding
I have been angry, lately. It’s no surprise. I am raising teenagers and I’m losing control.
People who know me know I like to control every aspect of my life which tends to trickle down to those around me. My dear sweet husband knows this, and he loves me in spite of the obvious flaw. In fact, he even allows me to control some aspects of his own life. Bless that man of mine for putting my needs before his.
Even my youngest has commented on my need for perfection. I would like to disagree with her when I look around and see that I live in a house that is not 100% clean all the time. And, yet, I have just confirmed her argument.
My need to control and my perfectionism seems to have taken a toll on our family. A recent blow-up had led me to the search for patience and looking for ways to control my anger. I have noticed that I am frustrated and angry more often. I wanted to understand why. So, I sought out my answers through meditation. I flipped through the book and I saw Patience as the antidote to anger.
When I went into this meditation, it had not occurred to me that I would walk away solving problems. Instead, I was just searching for a little bit of patience. In doing so, I discovered that I helped no one by getting angry. And now, I need to work on repairing those relationships, allow others to be who they are without trying to control them, and quit trying to be such a perfectionist.
Easier said than done, but I will be working on it more diligently. I want a peaceful household, and it must start with me.